Desire Doesn’t Ask Permission
Learning to follow the impulses that shape your intimacy and pleasure.
There’s a quiet kind of magic in noticing what turns you on. Not the flash-in-the-pan sparks of lust, but the subtle, persistent currents that tug at your attention again and again. A scent, a movement, a kink you’ve carried in secret, sometimes unnamed, sometimes unspoken. Desire doesn’t always make sense. It doesn’t obey logic. It simply exists, stubborn and insistent, and it’s ours to explore.
Too often, we treat our desires like they need to be justified, catalogued, or explained. We hide them because society tells us they’re embarrassing, shameful, or trivial. And yet, these desires are vital. They are a map to our inner landscape, a way to understand what makes us feel alive, what makes us feel intimate, and what makes us feel connected, to others, to ourselves, to our bodies.
Exploring desire safely, consensually, and creatively is a radical act of self-knowledge
It’s about knowing your boundaries, experimenting, and understanding what makes your body and mind hum. It’s about embracing pleasure without guilt and curiosity without fear. The fantasies that feel taboo, (like power exchange, unusual kinks, or the fantastical realms of erotic imagination) are part of the same spectrum as the simple joys of touch, gaze, or connection.
There’s also a deeply communal element to desire. Shared experiences, through conversation, mutual exploration, or even guided education, remind us that our quirks are not just ours alone. They are part of a larger human tapestry of curiosity, yearning, and intimacy. And in a world that so often pathologizes what we want, that realization can feel revolutionary.
So today, I invite you to pay attention to your own secret currents. To honour the impulses that surface when no one is watching. To explore, journal, or even articulate them to a trusted partner. Desire is not a problem to solve: it’s a guide, a companion, and sometimes a teacher. And the more we lean into it responsibly, the richer our experience of connection, pleasure, and self-understanding becomes.